I don’t know how bad the case of bullying these days with high schoolers because when I was in High School, it was what we are studying that were bullying us kkk, plus we have really tough school guards and guidance counselors to straighten us out. I saw “Thread of Lies” today, a heartfelt film that talks about school bullying.
Cheon-ji, a young lady in Middle school committed suicide because of depression from the unfair treatment she is getting from her classmates specifically from the only friend she has who talks behind her back. Just when she finally became closer to another classmate who shared happy moments with her in their secret away, her new friend who holds grudges towards her irresponsible father learned that her father was dating Cheon-ji’s mother which her teenager heart can handle so she threw it to Cheon-ji’s already ripping heart. Cheon-ji can’t no longer bear the emotional stress she was getting while keeping it to herself and in those times that she wanted to reach out to her stoic sister and busy mother, her family failed to notice how she is failing to succumb in the depression. There was no visible suicide note left but Cheon-ji’s sister and her mother soon was able to piece out the reason for her departure. They found notes attached to the end of Cheon-ji’s knitting yarns revealing the reason for her eventual death.
I can’t put myself on a parent’s shoes but this movie is a good wake up call to parents to start talking about their children about their friends at school. High school life is mostly spent with friends and it’s hard for teenagers to open up when they are having emotional torture because of peer pressure. The movie touched also how bullies have their own wounds that they can’t handle hence they are throwing it to people who accepts their evil doings. What alarmed me after seeing this film, was how people have difficulties understanding each other’s pain. Is it the bully’s fault that someone let himself to be bullied? Is it the family’s bully’s fault for not raising up their child well?
I myself admittedly have bad thoughts about someone when someone really gets to my nerves, but I’m so far successful in just keeping it to myself and letting my memory forget that I ever have those thoughts. But there are people who can’t handle it, and in the age of social networking, cyber bullying is a more pressing issue, because people tend to feed negative ideas from other people’s pathetic and nonsense rants over the world wide web.
I think for parents trying to know their children’s closest friends is a good way to check if he is in a functioning circle of friendship. Making sure that having open communication with their fears, woes and things that make your children happy is a must too.